This is the one word that we think of every day. We think about it when we wake up, when we go to sleep, and everything in between. It’s who we are and how we live.
We believe that no one can influence us and that we are who we are ß Ke$ha song! As a child we are always told, “Be you!” At the moment we all think, “Well, who else can I be?” But as we get older, you realize that peer presure and influences occur more times than you can count.
After you are influenced, the memory will remain forever. I still remember the first time a girl influenced me. She was one of my closest friends, but our personalities were completely different. She was the kind of girl that wanted to hook up with boys, and party. I liked boys, but at the time I wasn’t into the “party girl” mode. We took a trip to the Bahamas and things changed.
The last night we were there, she met a boy and decided that she wanted to make out with him. At the club (Club Rush), when you would dance, a random guy would come up and start to grind on you. At first I was uncomfortable and I would push them away. As I saw my friend constantly do it, and her tell me it was okay, and that it was only dancing, I let loose. I started dancing with a few guys.
At the end of the trip I noticed that when she gave it up to a guy, he wanted nothing to do with her. His friend and himself would only talk to me because I respected myself enough to keep my body to myself. This trip taught me the more you give it up, the less likely you will have a meaningful relationship anytime soon.
I hope you decide to live your life the way you want to. Don’t let anyone control your decisions and allow yourself to BE YOU!!!
XOXO~ Shelby
